You, too, can manifest love using the Law of Attraction, even if you’ve been hurt or let down before.
And trust me, I know how it feels, it can be very frustrating, especially if everyone around you seems to be able to manifest love easily and effortlessly.
But you came across this article for a reason. It was created with a deep intention to help you raise your vibration, change your mindset and energy…so that you can discover the most common mistakes people make when “trying to manifest love.”
You can get on a path of complete awareness and manifest your soulmate while transforming all areas of your life!
Reading this article alone can help you raise your vibration and make you feel good, empowered, and confident that you, too, can manifest love using the law of attraction (so read several times if needed).
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Table of Contents
Manifesting Love Mistake #1 Not Loving Yourself First + “Trying to Manifest Love” from a Place of Lack
Love yourself first! Yes, I know, I know. Easier said than done.
And what does it mean to love yourself anyway? And how can you start manifesting love by loving yourself?
Isn’t that something selfish?
And if you want to manifest love or attract a specific person, shouldn’t you be focused on them first?
Because…when they finally enter your life, then you will have permission to love yourself and be happy?
Well, this is the wrong mindset, and I’m sure you understand it by now.
As you love yourself, you vibrate your true, authentic energy. Then you can manifest true, authentic love (and other beautiful things, from spiritual experiences to money and abundance) into your life.
So…where do you start? Well, how about starting with a Mindful Morning Ritual? Or Evening Ritual if you prefer.
The most important thing here is to stay consistent with your rituals.
If you don’t have time, no worries. It’s not about how much time you have available.
Because you can always find 5 minutes to just be with yourself.
Whether it is dancing around to your favorite song, journaling, making a healthy smoothie, meditating, or reading a book…your subconscious mind absolutely loves receiving signals such as: “OK, we are in LOVE! All is good in our world.”
When you feel good, your vibrational frequency automatically attracts people who also feel good.
So important for manifesting true love!
And guess what…by making friends with your subconscious mind (and once again, it doesn’t have to be anything fancy or complicated), you begin to radiate the high-vibe energy of love.
Stay in that vibration by loving yourself!
Now, talking about love…love is the highest vibration. Like attracts like.
If you want to attract people who really love and appreciate you, it’s time to take a deep look at your self-talk.
Like everything, it’s a journey…and a lifestyle.
I intend to dive deeper into self-talk every day by talking to myself positively, looking at myself in the mirror with a smile, and giving myself a big pat on the back for every little step on my manifesting journey.
I used to beat myself up and torture myself with negative self-talk.
Where did it take me? Well, in alignment with such a negative vibe and self-hate, I would attract people (both in my love and professional life) who would doubt me, mistrust me, and even call me names.
But ever since I began loving myself, starting with boundaries, radical self-care, and self-love, things began to shift quickly. And this is exactly how I could finally manifest true love into my life.
I highly recommend you start setting up alerts in your calendar or on your phone.
You can call them “The Me time” or “I remember to love myself time” and use them to help you audit your thoughts, feelings, and emotions.
When it comes to manifesting love, many teachers miss the importance of mindset…
Specifically, the difference between the love and fear-based mindset.
For example, have you ever asked yourself WHY you want to manifest love?
What is the reason behind your why, and from what place are you trying to manifest?
For example, if you’re manifesting from a place of fear or a fear-based mindset, you feel like you need another person to save you and make you feel whole and complete to be happy and love yourself.
This is not the best mindset to manifest love…
And yes, I have been there too. And I have manifested from such a mindset.
I felt over the moon back then because it felt like my dream life.
Unfortunately (or fortunately, because I learned my lesson back then), it was a big illusion.
The partner I manifested back then was also in a fear-based mindset.
We both wanted someone else to help us heal, and in the end, we were both terrified to commit.
Another example of a fear-based mindset is when a person feels too scared to be alone because everyone is getting married and getting a house, and OMG: “I’m getting old, and what will my friends and family say….”
I, too, was in such a fear-based mindset!
Once again, manifesting from such a mindset only leads to more fear…it will not solve anything.
The key is to manifest from a love-based mindset of feeling whole and complete…
And it’s not about what other people think. It’s about what you think.
Each culture has its own ways and customs, and these may affect you… but remember that you are You.
Before identifying yourself with what you think is your culture, remember that, first of all, you are an Infinite and authentic being. You are powerful.
So, manifest from this beautiful place of already feeling whole and complete!
BTW, this simple question (are you manifesting from love or fear-based mindset?) will help you with pretty much any decision you need to make in life, and it’s crucial to help you manifest the life you love (this goes beyond manifesting love and can be applied to all areas of your life).
Finally, when thinking about manifesting love, remember to ground yourself by taking a few deep breaths and always use empowering language.
Avoid disempowering words such as “trying.”
You don’t want to be a person who’s trying to manifest love.
Instead, be LOVE! Vibrate LOVE. Embody LOVE. LOVE yourself!
Manifesting Love Mistake #2 Being Too Scared to Dive Deep (to Clear Out Negative Patterns)
We manifest what’s inside us…whether we know it or not.
While this statement may seem negative for many of us, we may start thinking: “If I am always manifesting failed relationships, then something must be wrong with me?”
In reality, it’s all about true empowerment.
And true empowerment takes place when we begin to think like our own Manifesting Love detectives.
Have you ever looked at the negative patterns that keep coming back in your relationships?
Don’t be afraid. Use them as data and feedback.
There’s nothing wrong with you.
Many of the negative patterns that we keep manifesting come from childhood trauma and deep-rooted subconscious beliefs.
It’s not that you’re consciously sabotaging yourself on purpose because you are a terrible person with bad energy.
No more guilt trips…
So, it’s much better to take a closer look at the negative patterns we’ve been manifesting.
Only then can we find true freedom and true empowerment.
Stop blaming other people, and stop blaming yourself.
Investigate everything from a place of neutrality, like a curious detective.
Also, ask yourself, what have you been taught about love in your childhood?
Were you given any good examples?
What feelings and emotions come up when you ask yourself what you were taught about love?
Were you ever told that true love doesn’t exist?
Or maybe, the way you were brought up made you develop an extremely exaggerated and perfectionist view of love?
I didn’t realize this one until recently!
But as a little girl, I watched one overly romantic movie with my grandma.
It somehow gave me a strange idea of how things should be.
Later, as an adult, when something in a relationship wouldn’t go precisely 200% according to my inner script of overly romanticized- idolized bordering on a fairy-tale program, I would get outraged and impatient, and that would lead to arguments over nothing).
Seems weird, I know. But this is the power of inner work.
And even though I have now manifested my dream partner, we both keep doing this work.
So, you may be wondering if there’s some specific framework that we follow…
The Secret Manifestation Tool We Use Daily…
Well, we are both very fond of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).
I tap daily. I LOVE tapping.
If I was to go on a desert island with only one inner work technique to do, it would be tapping.
It’s really that powerful!
You can learn it very quickly, and it will always be with you.
You can use it to overcome resistance and negative feelings, lower stress before any important meetings, and just feel good and happy.
Out of many inner work techniques and meditations I tried, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is the FASTEST. It can give you a huge relief even after 1 session.
I am a firm believer in “triggers are healers,” and so whenever someone or something triggers me, I thank them, and then I tap.
As I keep tapping, I automatically get downloads pointing to different childhood memories, and I immediately know the root situation that was causing specific negative patterns in my life).
I highly recommend you try EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) by following this program.
Manifesting Love Mistake #3 Struggling with Getting Clear on Who You Want to Attract (and the Real Reason Why)
Now, I’ll be the first one to admit. I’ve been so guilty of this one…
Both in my personal and professional life.
For a long, long time, I had no idea what kind of a partner I REALLY wanted to attract.
Just like in my professional life…
I had no idea what kind of a job I REALLY wanted.
So, I just kept chasing money, thinking that I could do with a job I didn’t enjoy, as long as I could make decent money doing it, so that then I could feel whole and complete and gain the approval of others (“Wow, Elena is so successful, we envy her!”).
Even after quitting my job and becoming a full-time entrepreneur, I repeated the same negative patterns. You see, I had no idea WHO I wanted to serve in my business back then.
I had no idea who I really was and who I wanted to attract.
So, I attracted clients and associates and business projects that only gave me massive burnouts and anxiety.
No, I’m not blaming them. It was my old energy and lack of self-awareness.
So, I just kept chasing whatever I thought was “the most profitable” venture because then I could make a lot of money and show off my success to attract some superficial approval of people who didn’t really care that much about me.
My love life? Same thing…I never took time to do the REAL, deep inner work.
Because to be able to do the inner work, you have to be OK with being alone.
Silence can be your best friend.
But that would scare me. I was looking for outside events and “accomplishments” to fill the feelings of hopelessness and helplessness inside me.
In alignment with that, since I didn’t really know what I wanted, I kept manifesting more confusion.
Yes, I did some random vision boards with my dream love life and whatnot, but in reality, I just mindlessly copied what everyone else was doing…
For example, I visualized my “dream wedding day”, whereas in reality, personally, I don’t really care that much about the legal (or religious) act of “getting married”).
All I care about is a true partnership and soul-mate-ship (of course, it’s just me, everyone is different, I’m not against people who really want to get married in the church and have an incredible wedding and all that).
But here’s ONE thing to understand.
What is the REAL reason why we are not clear on who we want to attract? (once again, this negative pattern goes way beyond our romantic relationships, and it can also manifest in our professional life).
Well, it’s because we don’t really know WHO we are and our values and energies.
Now, here’s the good news. All it takes is to make a decision.
Remember, you are divine, infinite, and perfect. So, get back to your roots.
Get back to your high vibration and feel your original energy.
That beautiful unspoiled energy you had when you first entered this world before you were exposed to any negative programming.
Close your eyes now as you’re reading this post, and just FEEL this energy.
Now, connect to your true awareness and your Higher Self and keep asking yourself:
–Who am I?
–What do I believe in? What are my values?
–What is my life philosophy?
–What do I really enjoy doing?
This is a fantastic journaling exercise, BTW. Oh, and don’t worry, this takes time.
Make a decision to embody the true you.
Like attracts like!
By being what you want to attract, it’s just a matter of time. And since now, you also understand the power of self-love and self-care, you can relax and wait…
It’s like being at your favorite LOA restaurant.
You know who you are. You are a high-end client.
You know what you want, and you just placed your order. Now you can relax and sip on your favorite wine (or something else) while you’re mindfully waiting for what is yet to come.
Be excited. Get rid of all that competitive stress of:
-“Oh, but I just have to manifest my dream partner by the end of this month.”
(Because I have a cousin’s wedding party coming soon and I am too scared to go there without “someone”).
-“What if they ask me why I am still single?”
Well, guess what.
If they ask, it means it’s in your aura, in your energetic field, and you emanate this behavior with your actions.
This is why they ask, and this is why you get angry or sad when they ask.
Subconsciously, you kind of what to feel that way, and you keep sending them more signals such as: please keep asking me about why I’m still single and, as you do so, make sure to be as cruel as you can, make me feel bad.
But…there’s a solution!
If you relax and get back to the first section (love yourself first), you will emanate the energy of confidence, and most likely, you will attract different kinds of questions.
If you have done the inner work described in this section (preferably several times), and you are clear on what your values, goals, and priorities are…
You embody them…
You will soon start attracting people that ask you questions that relate to your passions, hobbies, and values.
This is how it works!
Finally, at this stage, you can start affirming and visualizing, as it will help you amplify the desire you already embody. This is what true alignment is all about.
The problem is that many people jump into visualizing and affirming without doing any of the previous steps described, such as loving yourself, peeling off negative layers, dealing with childhood trauma, and then unleashing their true authentic self while getting clear on what kind of relationship they desire to attract.
Oh, and remember, never stop tapping.
I get back to this Emotional Freedom Technique Program whenever I start feeling negative emotions.
In fact, I welcome them now because I know that triggers are healers, and I feel excited to be peeling off more and more negative layers.
Now, this section is a bit long, and it’s lots of information to swallow.
But it really comes down to DEEPLY understanding the basics:
-deciding on what you want (by knowing who you are)
-embodying what you want (because like attracts like)
-aligning with what you want (affirm and visualize)
When affirming and visualizing, keep using positive images and empowering language.
For example: “I am so happy and grateful I now attracted my soul mate” and add a few positive statments about how your ideal relationship looks like and feel all the positive emotions as if you were living them NOW).
-surrender and let go – in other words, don’t obsess about the WHEN and HOW.
Extra Tips for Manifesting Love:
Be sure to create space for your dream partner. Begin with physical space.
For example, is your apartment ready to show the Universe that you are ready to manifest love?
Start re-arranging things around your house, as if you were already living with your soul mate.
Remember about emotional and mental Feng Shui too!
For example, if your thoughts, feelings, and emotions are still focused on your ex, or some love disappointment from 5 years ago, your emotional space is cluttered.
Just let go! Clear out your space as much as you can, in a truly holistic way – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Whenever any feelings of resistance or impatience arise, we recommend meditation or tapping (or both) to release old negative energies and impatience.
Oh, and never feel bad because “you’re not manifesting love” fast enough.
This is not some manifesting contest. Yes, the way manifestation is being “taught” on many social media channels these days can be somehow superficial.
This new method, this new technique. Oh, if it doesn’t work, then it’s all your fault. Something is wrong with you.
I am here to tell you that NOTHING is wrong with you.
You are a beautiful, infinite, and high-vibrating spiritual being who deserves to manifest love and live the life of your dreams.
Negative triggers can be healers. For example, you can welcome any feelings of impatience, fear, and lack, because they send you a sign to meditate more or indulge in self-love and self-care.
Understand that Your Higher Self and the Universe know the divine timing.
Sometimes you may feel down because you’re not manifesting fast enough, but in reality, the Universe might be doing you a favor to make sure you manifest at the right time for you and your partner.
Your dream partner, your soulmate, is already waiting for you.
Who knows, maybe they also need to heal before they meet you?
Keep doing your inner work as a peaceful warrior because the spiritual dividends of such work are real, and when you start receiving them to your spiritual and love bank account, the “numbers” you will see will be huge.
So, stay excited. Everything is unfolding just like it should, and the best is yet to come.
Sending you lots of love from here,
Elena
Your friend and guide in conscious manifesting
Extra Reading and Resources for Manifesting Love:
Law of Attraction for Amazing Relationships: How to Drastically Improve Your Love Life and Find Ever-Lasting Happiness with LOA! – now available on Amazon (Kindle, Paperback, Hardcover & Audio).
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