Whatever you desire to manifest in your life, having deep focus is so key to turning your dreams into a reality. After talking to hundreds of people who desire to manifest their goals with the Law of Attraction, I’ve identified that lack of focus is one of the most common manifesting blocks. So, how to really stay focused on your goal when manifesting?
How to avoid distractions? And the best part- are the distractions that slow us down or even prevent us from manifesting our desires coming only from the external environment, or perhaps they are unconscious creations of our minds?
In this post, we will focus more on the latter. Because manifesting is all about our inner game and taking full responsibility for what’s happening inside us. It’s also about the continual search for higher awareness and new levels of consciousness that helps us dissolve old problems and obstacles and see them more as challenges to overcome.
The following 3 mindset shifts will help you stay focused on your goal when manifesting and ensure you’re in alignment with your Higher Self 😊
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Mindset Shift #1 Make Sure That the Goal or Desire You’re Manifesting Is Really Yours…
Even though it may seem so obvious, you might be thinking: “Oh, what do you mean? Of course, I want to manifest my own goals!”
But…have you given yourself some time and space to dive deeper?
Your true goals come from your heart and your true essence. They feel like something that belongs to you. That doesn’t mean they don’t feel uncomfortable at times.
But even if they do, you feel so passionate about them that you see any obstacle as an opportunity to learn and grow.
Here are a few tips to determine whether a goal you desire to manifest is truly yours:
-You do not go after it to please others or seek validation/ approval. You go after it because it feels right, and you don’t care about prestige. In other words, you don’t put your goal or desire on a pedestal. You become it and fuse yourself with it by becoming the person who already has it.
This is the essence of heart-based manifesting; it was a real game changer for me. Vadim Zeland is the writer who really influenced me and opened my eyes to the value of my goals while staying away from the influences of external energies (he calls them “pendulums”). I highly recommend his works, including his book: Reality Transurfing.
Yes, it’s a pretty big book and may seem daunting to some. But the effort you put into studying it will surely pay off. It’s an excellent introduction for any student of metaphysics and conscious living.
And it’s fun and so soothing to read! It makes you feel good and liberated.
I think that Vadim Zeland touches on what so many (even those considered more advanced LOA teachers and authors) miss…the importance of going after your OWN goals and desires.
So, once again, ask yourself: “Do I want to manifest my goal to impress others? Or am I doing it for myself? Does it feel light or heavy?”.
When you desire to manifest your own desire, staying focused on your goal becomes effortless. There is nothing to prove and nobody to impress.
For me, it was a journey of deep ancestral healing and getting rid of many layers imposed on me by societal norms and “standards” I was born into.
So, my soul had some work to do! But it was worth it, and the concept of “to stay focused on your goal, make sure it is your very own goal, 1000% your goal” is now one of the main pillars of all my books and empowering messages I create.
Oh…and if you’re working on your own goal, you don’t need to tell everyone about it. Aside from kindred spirits, you know you can deeply trust!
Because sharing your desires with people, you can’t fully trust will not help you stay focused on your goal.
This beautifully connects us to the next lesson on energetic boundaries!
Mindset Shift 2 Create and Embody Energetic Boundaries
My approach to boundaries may be slightly different than standard self-development advice, where you create your boundaries and communicate them to others.
Don’t get me wrong. This is good advice and will help many people focus on their goals.
But there’s much more to it. There are also metaphysical/ energetic boundaries.
I don’t know about you, but in most cases, whenever I followed the standard advice of “just set and communicate your boundaries,” I only created lots of unnecessary tension inside and around me.
And I couldn’t understand why until I asked myself these empowering questions:
-When setting boundaries, how do I want to feel? And how do I want others to feel?
-Do I create boundaries from a place of separation or connection?
-Can I create boundaries from a place of love?
-Do I embody my boundaries? Do I respect them?
And the most important one: When setting and communicating my boundaries, am I truly convinced about them? Or do I ask others for permission to do what I want and stay focused on my goal?
Then after several days of some deep inner work through journaling and meditation, it finally dawned on me. I just heard something inside me that kept saying:
ENERGETIC BOUNDARIES don’t need to be communicated. They need to be embodied.
And I finally fully understood and am so excited to share this in this post. If you’ve read my book Authentic Self-Confidence, you’re probably already familiar with energetic boundaries.
But hey…let me share this concept from a different angle to help you stay focused on your goal.
I realized that by following the traditional advice on setting and communicating boundaries, I unconsciously repeated the pattern that was “taught” to me by a narcissistic family member.
(As always, I don’t write to vent or bash others. In this case, I’m grateful that this person showed me a specific negative pattern I learned to overcome.)
So, this narcissistic family member was often very jealous of the success of others. For example, if a friend got a master’s degree or a new job, they immediately wanted the same for them. They needed that validation and approval, not because it was their actual goal.
Then, they would be very resentful and often blame us, little children, for their lack of time and focus. After their narcissistic rage of blame and imposed guilt trips, they would calm down and proudly announce their goals and “boundaries” to us.
Their declarations were made from a place of resentment, separation, jealousy, and negative energy. They would announce their “boundaries” and how we had to take better care of ourselves from now on because now they exist only to get fancy degrees and new jobs.
An interesting thing is that, as always, they would end up in a bar drinking and complaining and would never even try to go after their goals. In other words, they NEVER embodied any of their boundaries. They only “communicated” them from a place of resentment, anger, and jealousy to make others feel bad and guilty.
So, years later, as an adult, I was doing my own version of what I like to call “forced boundaries”, from a place of separation, and boundaries that, yes, are communicated to others but never fully embodied.
Here’s how energetic boundaries work…
You SET them for yourself. And you embody them. You become them. This is how you stay focused on your goal. You become your goal. And, from my experience, since you embody your own boundaries, you hardly ever need to communicate them. They become evident through your energy and actions.
The old me would communicate her boundaries but without any deep conviction. And since I didn’t embody them fully, most people didn’t take me seriously. “Oh, yea, she is just some woo-woo writer wannabe. Whatever.”
So, learning and embodying the lesson of energetic boundaries was a real game changer for me. I didn’t have to explain much. In fact, from my experience, the less you explain, the better!
Why do we set energetic boundaries? Well, we have a soul-aligned goal to stay focused on, and we want to stay in the flow. We don’t set boundaries from a place of separation but a place of love and connection.
This is how I convinced myself of the importance of boundaries. And once I convinced myself, I no longer had to convince others because boundaries became a part of my being.
The family member I mentioned acted from a place of fear and separation. For many years, I feared being like them. I knew I was an empath. But for many years, I was an empath with no boundaries whatsoever.
Then, I rebelled and tried to set boundaries from a place of “You no longer can take advantage of my time, but maybe I make an exception for you here and there?”. I wasn’t convinced I had boundaries, so I communicated them to others from a place of seeking permission and validation.
I was unsure of my boundaries and would radiate that lack of security to others.
Finally, I discovered a better way, a love-based way, and it helped me embody my energetic boundaries and stay focused on my goal (writing manifestation books and empowering messages).
The reason for everything I do is love. I am at my best when I am connected to it.
Recommended Book: Authentic Self-Confidence: Manifest Your Best Life by Embracing Who You Truly Are
Mindset #3 Shiny Object Syndrome Definitely Doesn’t Help to Stay Focused on Your Goal…
Shiny object syndrome (and how not to get seduced by it) definitely deserves your attention if you want to stay focused on your goal…
Everyone knows what it is and that it needs to be avoided. Yet…after making ambitious New Year’s resolutions, many get caught up by the shiny object again.
As an ex-shiny syndrome addict, I feel I can add a lot of value here, haha! Here’s my recipe for long-term success…
Rather than trying to fight the effect or the symptom- falling into shiny objects- let’s look at the cause, the reason why we might get lured into what looks and sounds great but turns out to be a considerable distraction…
A good question to ask yourself is- “What is my inner state? What is it trying to tell me?”
For example, you may desire to manifest a new business, and you’re working on it and staying focused on your goal. And then, you encounter a minor obstacle, things seem to be moving slowly and more and more doubtful thoughts manifest: “This is now working. I will not be successful. What if I fail…?”.
Then, you start scrolling on social media, and some flashy ad gets your attention. Some new online business guru has yet another opportunity. They say it’s not saturated yet. But you must take action now. It’s only $997 today!
Since your inner state is filled with doubt and fear, your ego mind takes over. You buy into a new business opportunity, and after several months you realize you’re not moving forward. You feel like you waste time and money…☹
(If that’s your case, I know how it feels, please don’t feel bad, but use it as a valuable learning lesson and experience to grow!) 😊
So, instead of working on your genuine desire, your original seed, you got distracted by the shiny object syndrome and couldn’t stay focused on your initial goal.
Now, it’s important to note that we are not against investing in ourselves. I believe in “invest in yourself” and “keep learning and growing.” Whether it’s your passion, profession, or business, you deserve the best education and information to keep going and stay focused on your goal.
The keyword here is alignment. It’s all about your inner state. Don’t invest in teachers, books, or opportunities you don’t feel good about and don’t align with your original goal. You will only lose your focus. Sometimes, saying “no” can be a form of self-care.
At the same time, be very mindful of your inner state. Acknowledge that some manifestations take time and patience. Enjoy the journey 🙂
For example, if you want to be a blogger or a YouTuber with an amazing and loyal audience of soul-aligned subscribers, you need to stay focused on your goal and consistently show up with great content.
You need to do your part. But…manifesting is all about the inner work and shaping your mind, heart, and character in alignment with your goal.
As Dr. Joe Dispenza says: “Your personality creates your personal reality.”
The old me could hardly ever manifest any lasting change because she was too focused on trying to impress others by choosing flashy, somewhat prestigious goals coming from her ego mind, goals that didn’t feel good for her. Yet, she was determined to suffer to impress others…
At the same time, she lacked energetic boundaries and was constantly distracted by the shiny object syndrome.
I hope that my story can help you illustrate that staying focused is all about making inner shifts and up-leveling your mindset and energy in alignment with the new personality and personal reality you desire to manifest.
I would love to know which mindset shift you resonate most with!
Here’s to staying focused on our goals and manifesting our desires with joy while loving the process.
Until the next time we meet,
With love and gratitude,
Elena
Your friend and guide in conscious manifesting
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